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Borderline, Emotional Abuse, and More Caller Questions from March 7, 2025

March 7, 2025
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Topics: Christian Walk, Borderline, Adult Children, Emotional Abuse, Separation, Reconciliation, Aging Parents
Hosts: Brian Perez, Dr. Jim Burns, Dr. Sheri Keffer

Caller Questions & More:

1. Dr. Jim talks about finishing well; pray to break the strongholds that are entangling you, love God, do the right thing, and repeat every day.

2. How do I have empathy for my adult daughter who was diagnosed as a mild sociopath with Borderline PD and is very mean to me?

3. My husband is verbally and emotionally abusive. How do I reconcile after moving out of the bedroom five weeks ago? I have been told that I am not being Christ-like.

4. I am from Iran, and Dr. Sheri literally changed my life! How do I take care of my 74yo mom who has dementia and headaches daily?

Suggested Resources:
Doing Life with Your Adult Children
Understanding and Loving a Person with Borderline
Emotionally Destructive Relationship
How We Love

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