“Why are my relationships so chaotic?” … “I know I shouldn’t be treated this way, but I’m afraid of being alone.”
If this sounds familiar, you may be a codependent − someone who looks to another person for fulfillment. A codependent relationship consists of a “weak” person who needs to feel connected and a “strong” person who needs to feel needed. It’s a cycle that leaves both people feeling trapped.
You probably didn’t set out to be addicted to a person. The roots of codependency go back to a past of unmet needs. Today, you’re still trying to meet those needs, but in the wrong way. The problem with a codependent relationship is that it gives another human first place in your heart. Remember the first commandment?
“You shall have no other gods before me.” (Exodus 20:3 ESV)
When you let a person be your “need-meeter,” you allow that one to be your god. From the beginning, God knew the only path to peace would be complete reliance on Him. He alone meets your needs. He alone completes you. Allow Him to transform your heart until it belongs undividedly to Him − it is there that true freedom lies.
What God Says
“Do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10
"And thou shalt love the LORD thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might." Deuteronomy 6:5
"For do I now persuade men, or God? or do I seek to please men? for if I yet pleased men, I should not be the servant of Christ." Galatians 1:10
